A Dance with Wellness: Four Courteous Steps towards Healing

A Dance with Wellness: Four Courteous Steps towards Healing

Has there ever been a moment in your life when ailments, both physical and emotional, seem to orchestrate the rhythm to which you dance? Are you entangled in the arms of anger, resentment, or frustration? These unwelcome partners may not always be indicative of a chronic illness; instead, they manifest as emotional burdens that cast a gloomy shadow over your vitality.

Indeed, at various moments in life, these unwelcome companions have guided our steps. It is thus, dear reader, that we propose, with an air of hopeful curiosity, to explore together the choreography of "Four Courteous Steps Towards Healing." It is through this refined pas de quatre that we hope you will glean profound insights into your inner workings, your behaviours, and the ways in which you contribute to, or detract from, your wellspring of health currency.

Understanding Your Energy

The concept of an aura or an energy field enveloping the human body is hardly unfamiliar. Yet, its implications for our health and wellbeing might not be entirely apparent. According to Carolyn Myss, esteemed author of the audio programme "Why People Don't Heal," this energy field serves as a translator, converting our thoughts into energy, or as Myss eloquently conveys it, morphing one's personal biography into their biology. In essence, the cycles or waves of energy encircling our physical form are the tangible manifestations of our thoughts, swaying the pendulum of our health between favourable and unfavourable outcomes.

The seven principal "chakras" (a Sanskrit term translating to 'wheel or vortex') are the key players in this energy performance around our bodies. Myss refers interestingly to each chakra as a 'computer', a tool that amasses and decodes information and perceptions influencing our worldview. Scientific insights corroborate the assertion that each of these vibrant energy wheels aligns with a specific endocrine gland in the body. Thus, paralleling the familiar saying, "you are what you eat," it might be posited that indeed, "you are what you think."

Releasing Old Wounds

Assuming you've been delicately prising apart your thoughts, transmuting negative energy into its positive counterpart, Myss interjects with an intriguing query. Would you concur with her that 'healing is unattractive'? It is worthwhile to let this query marinate: Why should healing—the restoration of balance—be deemed unattractive?

According to Myss, the wounds we nurture within us become bulwarks of our identity; they grant us power. After thoughtful reflection, a three-fold outline emerges that evinces ways we use these power-imbued wounds to our advantage, perhaps even unintentionally.

Ask yourself: Are you orchestrating your life movements to the rhythm of your wounds? You may find your answer resonating if you do any of the following:

1. Utilise Your Wounds to Influence a Situation or an Individual

Consider a situation you perceive as distasteful, intimidating or one that rubs against your sensitivities. How often have you evaded such scenarios when confrontation was of paramount necessity? Or perhaps, cloaked in the amour of past trauma, declared your inability to engage in a potential relationship due to past burns. You would certainly not be alone in admitting to using past wounds as shields, often hindering the courage to love without conditions.

2. Leverage Your Wounds to Draw in Similarly Wounded Souls

Listening to others recount their trials and tribulations often turns into an exchange match of wound poker – "I'll see your trauma and raise you one." It is necessary to appreciate the difference between healing from a wound and leading with it. While it may be a subjective discernment, it's safe to suggest that the distinction is palpable when paying careful attention to your state of being. Signs of a healthy emotional state may include the ability to empathise without feeling compelled to repair the situation or to display your wounds unasked.

3. Surrender Your Ability to Listen

Dr. Bernie Siegel, in his book "Peace, Love and Healing," posits that to listen is the noblest of roles, akin to the divine work of Angels. In moments of distress, when a friend beckons for support, oftentimes, all that is expected and needed is a pair of attentive ears. However, leading with our wounds, or falling victim to 'woundology' as characterized by Ms. Myss, reveals a desperate craving for attention and an intolerance towards a loss of power.

A personal admission from my journal - Recently, I found myself on the receiving end of a trust-filled revelation about another's experience of loss. As attention was lavished upon their words, my mind was concurrently waging a diligent search for a similar event of my own. My ulterior motive? To assuage their sadness with an unwitting claim of "My experience was far more dreadful." Fortunately, self-awareness set in, enabling me to retract my attention-stealing intent and offer my undivided and compassionate listening, which was all that was truly needed.

Embrace Forgiveness

Having ventured thus far, we now arrive at the transformative estate of forgiveness, the third step in this healing waltz. Genuine forgiveness soothes our emotional investment in past sorrows, liberating the energy ensnared in those bygone moments. This act, as Myss affirms, is the swiftest route to channeling our energy into the present. The sensation of authentic forgiveness is unmistakable – it is as though the body "lets go" of the burdensome weight of the past.

Engage in Self-Love

The final, graceful measure in our dance towards self-healing? Self-love, of course. This notion might present itself as the most intricate of steps to execute. To extend unconditional love and acceptance to oneself, as we are today, begs for bravery. However, the simple realization that we are inhibiting our personal growth and health with self-deprecating dialogue is a powerful catalyst. This awareness can ignite a tender journey of loving oneself gradually, in fractions, one piece at a time.

Here's one method to pursue this journey. You might find it a tad unconventional. Take a gentle leaf out of Louise L. Hay's book: "You Can Heal Your Life," where she details this method as an instrumental aid in her healing from cancer.

Devote 15 minutes daily to stand before a mirror, showering love onto your reflection. Begin with one attribute that you deem perfect. Progressively, day by day, week by week, or month by month, learn to love more aspects of yourself. In time, the reflection gazing back at you will embody perfection, a beautiful image held together by pure self-love. Concurrently, your cleansing journey will have purified and reenergized your being.

In conclusion, the four steps towards healing could potentially be refined into a single, simple directive. Only one integral step has the transformative power to guide you towards wellness and happiness. Remember, it is when we've mastered the art of loving ourselves that the realm of healing opens its doors, inviting us to dance freely within its healing embrace.